Smoother ,more harmonious and mutually beneficial Communication

Many have an innate proclivity to assume that another's intention is aligned with theirs and thus assume total congruency and react as if the other person thinks and feels as they do,attacking aggressively when they disagree or present something differently because another did not think,act or react as they do

This arrogant proclivity is the source of much discord because when people actually take time to clarify another's understanding and intention many times they find that another person simply comes from a totally differently place with the best intention but they simply might have misunderstood something or that something means something different to them or " heaven forbid " they see things differently

Before Jumping to conclusions we should stand firmly on the ground step back get the whole picture,clarify everything and then our conclusion will not be a jump but a step in the right direction

Some questions to aid in this all important endeavor

What do you mean?

What does this mean to you?

How do you see this?

What do you feel about this?

Where are you coming from?

How did you arrive at this conclusion?

And then without war in ones words stating firstly

I hear you

Repeat what they say to make sure you are clear and it shows validation and respect

Find some point of honest agreement in actuality or in potential no matter how small and say for example

I agree( people like others to agree with them) that if ___was the case____ would probably be the result

Then

Always ask permission,it does not show weakness but civility and respect

for example

Could put I forward another perspective?

Would you consider hearing another angle ?

Could I share what I feel about this?

Would you consider another option?

I would like to humbly suggest something if possible

There are exceptions but if you want to another to actually listen to you and gain the possibility of making progress NEVER say

You are wrong or
whats wrong with you? etc

Rather consider saying

The way I see it is

What I have learnt is

According to my experience

What I have been told is etc

Another suggestion

Again there are exceptions but ,never say no immediately , give people the respect of saying that you will think about it, mull it over etc.
This simple practice will go along way to strengthening relationships and connections