Sometimes we have an issue getting past a loved one's , a friend's etc challenging behavior , words said etc... maybe you need to learn to H.U.G.

Humble- realize everyone has their story which G-D has allowed them to author through their choices at their pace.Trust that G-D is proof reading all the time and has the bigger picture

Unconditional-dont make ego based decisions,actions reactions etc.Let people be themselves, let go of the petty move on.
When you are unconditional, you are just being the best version of you that you can be to live your best life and in so doing you will be an inspiration and a source of light to others

Gratitude-Be grateful for the people in your life ,how would you feel without them( G-D forbid)?.
See the whole person, remember the good they have done and realize they have the right to think and be different to you.Most importantly remember that you have fallen too,remember why, the understanding,sensitivity,consideration,help etc that you needed, wanted or requested

Dont settle ,make great the going rate

UNCONDITIONAL-YOUR NEW LEASE ON LIFE

BEING UNCONDITIONAL UNLEASHES YOUR SOUL AND MEANS NOONE HAS A HOLD ON YOU,YOU ARE TRULY FREE TO BE GREAT ,GOOD,WARM ,LOVING ,CARING,POSITIVE, CONFIDENT ,GRATEFUL WHEN EVER YOU WANT

YOU ARE ABOVE PEOPLES WORDS AND REACTIONS...YOU REALIZE THAT LIFE IS TOO PRECIOUS NOT TO BE FREE TO BE THE AWESOME ,DIVINE,UNIQUE ,AMAZING YOU

YOU HAVE THE STRENGTH TO MOVE ON WHEN OTHERS STUBBORNLY STICK TO BEING STUCK

YOU HUG THE LIFE YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN, BASK IN ITS GRATEFUL LIGHT WHICH JUST MIGHT BRIGHTEN THE WAY TO THE LIFE YOU CAN STILL ACHIEVE

YOU START TO REALIZE HOW UNLIMITED YOU ARE,G-D'S SUBLIME ETERNAL BEAUTY FILLS YOUR WHOLE BEING

YOU SMILE MORE

YOU HAVE A LITTLE DANCEIN YOUR STEP

YOUR BREATH IS TAKEN WAY

YOU ARE SUDDENLY MORE AWARE,YOUR SENSES HEIGHTENED

TEARS OF JOY COME TO YOUR EYES AND YOU MIGHT NOT KNOW WHY

BEING UNCONDITIONAL IS A REBIRTH..A NEW LEASE ON LIFE,YOU WALK AMONG OTHERS BUT YOU LIVE AT DIFFERENT LEVEL,YOU ARE TOTALLY PRESENT IN THE AWESOME POWER THAT DOMINION OF THE SOUL OVER THE BODY BRINGS

GIVE YOUR SELF THE TIME TO BE UNCONDITIONAL ,MAKE IT YOUR CONSCIOUS AND YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS

YOU CAN ALWAYS TAKE IT HIGHER YOU HAVE G-D WITHIN YOU

To be or not to be is not the question
Who to become or who not to become is the question
As in the grand scheme , the bigger picture etc it is not really what you get or how much you have, what you do etc,they all have their place, it is who you become

When you focus on the beautiful in everyone and every thing you wont miss the ugly you will just be looking at it in the context of the beautiful in its correct dimensions and you will bask in the holy rays of the miraculous and the beautiful when others might be sinking in the quicksand of the ugly they have chosen to focus on..You can always take it higher ..you have G-D within you

The meaning of Life is to allow G-D to help you get to know the gift that is you.
The purpose of life is to give it to the world.
When you are self-less you make the world more-postively

G-D created you so you can never say I can't because you do not know the extent of what you are truly capable of .Only the manufacturer knows the true, full capability of his/her product.
We only say we cant
Due to the hypnotic dance of the herd that tell us what we can and cannot do

We want things to happen when we want them to and dont realize that G-D has the stopwatch not us

We are too lazy and /or too fearful to venture out of our comfort zone

We limit ourselves by judgements and assumptions and thus do not see past them

Let us not have the hubris to act as if we created ourselves and bow to the wisdom of our "Manufacturer, " Creator who knows what we are capable of and puts no cap on our potential,abilities etc at times we just have different pieces to play with but we remain unlimited.
You can always takeit higher you have G-D within

Abraham broke off from the herd and acknowledged the Master when he realized that he is a piece of the Master and the Masterpiece that was Abraham's life has been resonating within us for generations.
Embrace the uniqueness that is you and pour that wholeheartedly into whatever you do whether it is waiting tables ,collecting garbage ,sweeping the streets you, will be legendary and create your own economy.----you can always take it higher you have G-D within you

If G-d has granted you another day whatever you have done ,forgive yourself and do what you need to do to make things right and move on.You have not justified or made excuses for what you have done you have just built a bridge over it making sure you can go forward and do things differently.We all have the same 24 hours and doing nothing gives you what you always had until it gets worse as nothing remains stagnant.You can always take it higher you have G-D within you

The 5/100 club
If you owned a car in excellent working order would you
have it pushed by someone while you are in it or would you drive it?
have your bags ,carried or put them in the boot/trunk of the car?

The questions seem ludicrous..but consider
Would you say to yourself I am okay with having the car pushed I dont need more than this
Would you further say I dont need to put my bags in the boot/trunk I want someone to carry them while the car is being pushed

Still ludicrous

Well I put to you that most of us do the same with the lives G-D has given us.
We settle, resign ourselves to life , we pick the most comfortable complacent recliner for our comfort zone and we pick out the glasses that will not allow us to see further than our comfort zone.

We push our cars instead of driving and exploring the awesome possibilities, the potential that G-D has placed within us,the impact we can have , the lives we could touch, the things we could achieve,the goodness, the greatness ,the inspiration that we could pour into the world from the easel of the Master piece that can be our lives as we are pieces of the Master

Those who push cars they could be driving succumb to the menace of mediocrity those that decide to drive will eventually unlimit themselves into the embrace of the constantly greater versions of themselves.They will redeem their days and in so doing eventually their lives.Allowing us to express our epic, our iconic, our awesome, our legendary in total congruence with our exceptionally unique standing as creations of G-D

The 5/100 Club

Hopes to take the 5% that drive their cars and turn that eventually as close as we can into 100% and in so doing elevating ourselves our families, our nations ,our environments and indeed the world...
G-D knows you are worth the effort and believes in you..so should you

You can always take it higher..you have G-D within you

Join the 5/100 Club and start making the rest of your life the best of your life

If you are going to look for guarantees you will live a trapped life whose horizon will be the extent of your comfort zone, whose sun will be the dulling light of complacency and true love, excitement,growth ,creativity,potential,success closeness to G-D etc will be mere fantasy

I want to start to show you how much power and impact G-D has given you
I call it the"transformer effect"
Todays exercise is directed at those of you who are honest enough to admit that you are blamaholics

1.For the next week commit no matter what not to blame anyone for anything at all even if they blame you with a special focus on those whom you normally blame.
Find another constructive way without blame or accusation to get your point across in a positive manner.

2.Repeat this affirmation as many times as you can throughout the day,write it down on a piece of paper and keep it in front of you
"Blaming someone gives the responsibility to others to change and if they dont I remain stuck.I will take responsibility for myself ,no matter the issue ,make the positive changes I need that will help me move forward because my life is too important to me"

For one week go to the other extreme and do not blame or accuse at all.
Take 7 pieces of paper or a small pad and document any changes positive or negative that occur as a result of this extreme change and their impact on your part in your relationships and in general each day

The exercise is worth the effort you are worth the effort,but you must own this exercise take responsibility for it and make the best of it,give it your all and lets see what transpires

If someone has done something you disagree with.. you have to decide what your aim is
If it is to just make your point come what may then that is an ego response but a response nevertheless
If however you want a chance of getting anywhere I might suggest the following

Instead of saying

I have a bone to pick with you
or
I dont like fighting but we have to talk
or
we always argue but this has to be addresses
etc
Rather say

I have something important to me that I would like to discuss with you

Could you spare me a few moments there is something I would like your input on

I would love to hear your take on -------

etc etc
In other words take the war out of your words if you want peace and you can still make a strong firm point in way that increases your chances of actually making an impact that will get the point home

DESCRIBE DONT EVALUATE

YOU MAY GET SOMEONES ATTENTION BUT IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE LISTENING....YOU WANT THEIR EAR NOT THEIR FEAR..

Who loses and argument?.
both sides as nothing is really achieved

Who loses a discussion?
noone as both have learned something whether they got what they want or not and have a chance for a continued dialogue

To thank G-D with words only for the gift of life merely cheapens the gift.
You daily or even half hourly question no..your constant question should be

In all that I think ,say,do act ,react etc am I showing true gratitude to G-D for the gift of life?

Voices at different keys come together to form a dynamic harmony which sounds most beautiful when each sings with the other at the right time without undue prominence.
Allow your lives and relationships to be open to a workable harmony where each and everyone is heard and respected, disagreement voiced in an appropriate manner and at an appropriate time. Healthy positive perspective allows all the parts to find their suitable places at any given moment resulting in the harmony that could be your life at any given time.

Smoother ,more harmonious and mutually beneficial Communication

Many have an innate proclivity to assume that another's intention is aligned with theirs and thus assume total congruency and react as if the other person thinks and feels as they do,attacking aggressively when they disagree or present something differently because another did not think,act or react as they do

This arrogant proclivity is the source of much discord because when people actually take time to clarify another's understanding and intention many times they find that another person simply comes from a totally differently place with the best intention but they simply might have misunderstood something or that something means something different to them or " heaven forbid " they see things differently

Before Jumping to conclusions we should stand firmly on the ground step back get the whole picture,clarify everything and then our conclusion will not be a jump but a step in the right direction

Some questions to aid in this all important endeavor

What do you mean?

What does this mean to you?

How do you see this?

What do you feel about this?

Where are you coming from?

How did you arrive at this conclusion?

And then without war in ones words stating firstly

I hear you

Repeat what they say to make sure you are clear and it shows validation and respect

Find some point of honest agreement in actuality or in potential no matter how small and say for example

I agree( people like others to agree with them) that if ___was the case____ would probably be the result

Then

Always ask permission,it does not show weakness but civility and respect

for example

Could put I forward another perspective?

Would you consider hearing another angle ?

Could I share what I feel about this?

Would you consider another option?

I would like to humbly suggest something if possible

There are exceptions but if you want to another to actually listen to you and gain the possibility of making progress NEVER say

You are wrong or
whats wrong with you? etc

Rather consider saying

The way I see it is

What I have learnt is

According to my experience

What I have been told is etc

Another suggestion

Again there are exceptions but ,never say no immediately , give people the respect of saying that you will think about it, mull it over etc.
This simple practice will go along way to strengthening relationships and connections

People do not have to subscribe to your definitions, understanding their definitions will be the bridge that will expand your definitions and preserve your relationships

Example

One person defines friendship as a daily phone call or more and meeting at least once week

Another person defines friendship as being there for a person when they need them most , calling once a week or so and meeting once a month

When either side is full of their biased expectations then friction will ensue and the friendship might end
However when one or both strive to understand the others definition of friendship one might find that all the other wants to be is good friends and the other might find that they are already regarded as a good friend from the others perspective

Keep your definitions fluid then you will preserve ,enhance and gain relationships

How people treat you is their understanding of the privilege of being a unique creation of G-D..How you react is yours

Holiness does not come from those who detach themselves from the world but rather from those who find the holiness in everyone and everything and in so doing elevate themselves ,their surroundings,those that are with them and in deed the world,uniting the sparks.
Your humanity is your unique path to holiness, it is yours to work through and rise beyond imagining..Holiness through Humanity...you can always take it higher....you have G-D within you

The longest roots are never uprooted by the strongest of winds and nurture the tallest trees.Iron clad emuna allows the longest and strongest of roots to grow , consistently greater heights to be reached and a life of miraculous meaning,iconic impact and epic contribution to be lived

Some of us have so many airs that in the end we are taken by the winds without leaving an imprint of our true selves.Let humility keep us grounded for only with it are we able to let G-D in and then reach beyond the stars

If "good enough" is in your vocabulary you will never try your best.If you try your best whatever you do will be good enough

When G-d is in all that you do and say then nothing you do or say is a waste no matter how mundane but rather part of the puzzle of your spiritual perfection transforming the mundane into the majestic

Your authenticity is your G-D given power , it is uniquely you,disguised, camouflaged by the dictates of the herd, darkened by the magnetism of our egos,imprisoned by complacency and the comfort of habit.It awaits our recognition and then on the wings of rehabilitated choices we come to live a life not as casualties but as champions of our circumstances

Every situation ,every issue, very challenge etc has a spiritual and physical aspect whether we like it or not.The soul"sees" much further than the eye, to reject its input is to fill an airplanes tank with fuel but to leave it grounded

A spiritual perspective gives you a much broader physical perspective, as where the physical perceives an end the spiritual has barely begun to notice a beginning..You can always taking it higher....you have G-D within you

A Redemption mindset does not allow travel on a path of postponement but embraces choice as the key G-D gives us to find the light that shines on the path with massive action to the greatest version of ourselves in total unity with the all encompassing oneness that is G-D

Sometimes you have to just let people be but be there for them

G-D has ensured that you will never ,no matter what you do be a first rate version of someone else,but you can be a first rate version of yourself,it may take time but as long as that is your goal..you are already in the magnetic field of first rate because you can always take it higher..you have G-D within you

Learn to silence your minds chatter and whitewash the billboards your Yetser Hara or inner saboteur sends to your thoughts,just be present dont engage,entertain or empower them , dont grant them existence and you will feel G-D within you, the unfettered power of your soul,the place within you that you cannot divide,where wholeness reigns ,the all encompassing Source that is G-D

March to the music that you hear,it is your own beautiful authentic voice, allow G-D to conduct and your life starts to change overnight

The message you project, exude, give over is in many cases the answer you will receive.If your message is give me, give me ,give me ..you will feel life demanding from you give me, give me, give.If you shift your focus to how can I contribute, add value, serve help etc then in many cases that is response you will eventually attract.

When you make the conscious choice to see what comes your way or where you find yourself as instructive and not obstructive,you may still have a fight on your hands but you have just increased your chances of victory and emerging an even greater person exponentially. Remember you have G-d within you,you can always go higher

The second you think that any person or any situation can make you think or feel anything you have lost your freedom and you are in an Egypt of your making.The only way you can leave is when you unleaven your words and leave the confines of power draining words immediately into the discomfort zone of choice empowering words that will help you get the most of your life changing redeeming gift of choice that G-d has given you expanding your horizons,seeing more options,growing more, achieving more, finding more happiness, fulfillment and even clearing up your sight to see the miracles and blessings that have always been there....you can always go higher,you have G-d within you

There is not much more liberating than doing what's right unconditionally without judgement or expectation but with eyes wide open.For then you are free of ego, not waiting for a quid pro quo, not looking for approval,honor,recognition etc just doing the right thing unhindered making the world a better place because of you.The funny things is that the more you do this the more recognition,money,love etc pursue you in accordance with your true needs.....in other words wholeheartedly doing G-d's will

G-d works in mysterious ways, not accidental ways....so live with purpose....shine with life...think with meaning....see with gratitude, for you are the lighthouse through which G-d brightens your path in concert with your level of authenticity manifest in the power of your connection to G-d

10 REALIZATIONS OF A SPIRITUAL GIANT
Inculcate,Embrace, Apply and let G-D keep taking you Higher

1.I was created by the Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be

2. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be thought I was worth creating

3. I am loved by the Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be

4. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be created me totally unique, there is noone, there never has been and there never will be anyone like me.

5. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be created everything that happens in my life to bring me closer to" Him" , to help me grow, to become better and spread "His" love and goodness all the while leading my greatest life

6.The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be enjoined us to strive to emulate "Him" knowing that we can never be "Him" thus ensuring that there is no cap on our growth,there are no limits to the heights we can reach, the goodness we can spread

7. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is ,was or ever will be never gives up on us.

8. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be has given me infinite worth and value that cannot be diminished by anyone

9. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be is the only true dynamic reality thus ensuring that nothing is set in stone,anything and everything is possible and there is always hope

10. The Creator and Maintainer of all that is was or ever will be sent an angel to teach us all we will ever need to know when we were in the womb and then tapped us above the lip creating the philtrum which is a constant reminder that all we ever need for our greatest life we have, we have been down that road before.We have to believe in ourselves just like G-D does and we will learn to access that which the angel taught us and present to the world the Masterpiece that is our life being that we are a piece of the Master

Obviously in extreme cases there are exceptions however:

When interacting with someone do not look at them with tunnel vision see the whole person, the whole picture in actuality and in potential

Then
If there is something that was said that you find hard to get past or get over despite your best efforts

If there is something that was done that you cannot change

If you are stuck somewhere in some issue etc

Be wary of and honest about your own fallibility and then with humility

Stop...step back

And learn to build a bridge over that which has been done and cannot be changed specifically and in general in order to preserve important relationships move on and go forward to live your greatest life as the constantly best version of you that G-D allows you to present to the world at any one time

Successful people ask better questions

Happier people ask better questions

Fulfilled people ask better questions

The questions we ask lead to the decisions we make and to make the better decisions we need to have the appropriate mindset and be in a suitable state of mind

Having a Redemption mindset and being in a grateful state of mind will give you the clarity to ask the questions that will lead G-d willing to the changes you need and the quality of life that will follow a constantly better version of you that your efforts will present to the world at any one time........

There are too many of us who are overfed but with undernourished lives looking for fulfillment, meaningful direction and happiness....nourish your soul truly and your body will eagerly follow .

One name of G-D is Hamakom( המקום) the place,one reason seems to be because wherever you are, wherever you choose to be located, be present is what counts,what can get you through ,make success achievable.Whenever you are present in G-D,when G-D is your core,your primary presence the landscape of your life changes, the topography of your challenges shift,what use to be a mountain may now be a hill,what you used to be beyond your horizon may now be in clear sight etc.

With a Redemption mindset through a lens of gratitude your access to the core presence, our true location in the reality that is G-D becomes stronger,more enhanced,more intense, more achievable

Redemption is basically upgrading constantly ,presenting a constantly better version of you towards your higher purpose and when your higher ultimate purpose is getting closer to the eternal infinity that is G-D any cap on your potential ,abilities,your value , your worth, creativity has been lifted.The word limit becomes instantly archaic and the impossible becomes possible.You can do absolutely anything you need to and that should be your focus, leave it up to G-D to decide if you will succeed as it is never you but always G-D

A drop separate from the ocean is but a drop..a drop back in the ocean is the ocean

Commit to live an adventurous, significant and purposeful life and the only way you can truly do that is living it as yourself striving for a constantly better version of you.The world cannot get enough of you ,G-D cannot get enough of you, you are never enough.You are incredible ..you can be more incredible,you are always worth more ,you are never too far gone to go far.Let G-d in and you will not be as the drop but you will feel the awesome power of the entire ocean

Lasting true power is never the position you hold, the influence you wield, the money you have etc
True lasting power is taking any situation that you are in and making it another part of the masterpiece that is your life, being that you are a part of the Master

There is one challenge that noone in history ,the present ,or the future could ever be more successful than you at

That is consistently presenting the world with the best version of you..as only you can be you

Your record would be unbeatable but you still have competition..the person you can always become
That is why we we are enjoined to compare ourselves only to G-D ...being that we will never be G-D we are always be growing, becoming better ,always presenting an unbeatable better version of ourselves as only we can do

One of the most important skills to hone is honest periodic reevaluation it truly is critical to your continued sustainable growth, success and fulfillment

Without reevaluation you will always do what you have done and thus always get what you have always got which if it does not progress will eventually regress in every area of your life

The pain of emptiness is potential untapped, heights not reached,happiness in hiding, fulfillment left wanting etc

Honest , true,empowering reevaluation is your gateway to the greatest you that G-D will allow you to be and there is no cap on that

G-D believes in you so should you
You are never too far gone to go far

Everyday is G-d's day but Shabbat is where all facades drop and we have the opportunity of the unhindered experience, feeling ,taste,inspiration of a small but unbelievable portion of the true infinite ,eternal,Divine, all encompassing oneness , the reality that is G-D that you are a part of
So after a challenging week ,where you think you have just had enough , I cant,I dont want to take any more of___.Here comes the Shabbat's message of continuity, of the infinite, transcending the supposed mundane and realizing that world has not had enough of you,G-D has not had enough of you.There is always so much more to you, you are always worth more..each day ,each moment is a new opportunity find and pour into the world a new better version of you and Shabbat is telling you that you are Divine ,your life is your masterpiece being that you are a part of the Master....there is no cap on the greatness that is you when you drink in that you are part of the all encompassing greatness that is G-D

Its important to realize that in general there is no such thing as " I have no choice"
Even if someone was holding a gun to your head ,G-D forbid,you could choice to pay the price for not giving in to that person,as horrendous as that may be/

Even if someone is blackmailing you ,G-D forbid, it is a still a choice to give in, it may be a tragic one , but still a choice

So even if at times you make bad choices,or do things you know you should not at the very least stop using" I have or had no choice" and use rather " I am choosing to do this because____"
If you do this , at times you might stop yourself making that bad choice or at least you will make sure you know that you always have a choice and thus your road to redemption is always open and that change is just a choice away

In order to preserve and enhance our relationships we have to become multi-lingual
We have to learn the language of
love
gratitude
disagreement
care and giving
patience
understanding
resilience and determination
action and being proactive
perspective and context
humility
healthy confidence and more
We , many times speak the wrong language which results in clashes ,tension ,friction ,misunderstanding and needless problems

We at time are speaking the language of
anger instead of the language of understanding
selfishness and greed instead of the language of care and giving
surrender and giving up instead of the language of resilience and determination

Learning to speak the right language is a critically important skill ,achievable and within reach of us all

S.ELF TALK

T.HOUGHTS

A.CTIONS

R.ITUALS AND ROUTINES

T.IME

A great gift from G-D is the concept of "new" because if something is new we are not tied to what was otherwise it would not be new but "old".
So every new day is a grand majestic opportunity to start again, in fact every moment is a chance to change to upgrade ,to soar
But it depends how you S.T.A.R.T. if it was with G-D then even the stars will not be noticeable when you look down..as you will be going higher and higher on your stairway to Heaven ...creating your heaven on earth

S.T.A.R.T. well and remember you are never too far gone to go far

With Pesach encroaching here is one of the most powerful messages to us from G-D and clinging to G-D with this message has been an enormous factor in ensuring our survival through the fires of centuries past
We are enjoined to remember everyday a few times"Yetziat Mitzraim" our exodus from Egypt ...why? , there are numerous reasons but here comes the power
We were on the 49th level of impurity if we had tarried any longer in Egypt we would have been lost but G-D in his infinite love redeemed so the message is clear
No matter how low you go,yes you might have a price to pay, BUT you are never lost, you are always loved, you are never beyond redemption
YOU ARE NEVER TOO FAR GONE TO GO FAR..
A MAGICAL MESSAGE OF ETERNAL HOPE THAT OBLITERATES THE NEED FOR DESPAIR ,NEGATIVE GUILT,EXCUSES AND SELF PITY
G-D has shown you that you are always worth it no matter how low you go
So PASS OVER what holds you back and give your self permission to be redeemed daily and touch the Divine within you that has never left you

Keep your definitions fluid then you will not drown in them and will be able to swim past to new more rejuvenating shores and find a continually greater, more joyous and fulfilling life
For example you might have been told that the definition of success is making money and gaining standing and importance in the community
and even though this does not sit well with you ,you accept this,live by it, because that is what many have told you
When you keep your definitions fluid the change, the upgrade, the transformation to what for you is true success will be easier , more fulfilling , more meaningful and you will truly shine as you are closer to what inspires you to true success

So many leadership and personal development gurus and icons talk about having your all important "Why" as it gives direction,purpose, meaning ,drive,hope ,motivation etc.The Torah has emphasized this eons ago.

Your "what" is also emphasized to make sure it positively and effectively serves your "why"

BUT:

What about the "HOW"?....You can and should have an amazing "why" and a positively potent "what"
but that would never work for you unless you realign your"HOW" with your capability for "Wow"

The true impact is not just in why and what you say or do but most importantly in How you do it

Disagreements are fine but relationships are destroyed when the "how " is not

When you are knocked down, fall ,make serious mistakes how you get up makes the memorable impression

Even if you did not finish a task given to you many a time how you did that task will be your saving grace and be your currency for greatness even more than if you had completed the task

When you give charity its not just what you give as the Torah tells us, its how you give it that brings the blessing and changes lives , yours more than the one you are giving to

Your " how" is your currency for greatness,your key to redemption, your door to salvation,your road to meaningful joy,fulfillment inspiration and quality..your capability for WOW even if you are a humble street sweeper

Are you an excusaholic?
Someone gave me some sage advice yesterday and I found myself without even paying attention spewing out excuses before I even thought about what was said ,gave it some time and considered what I could do instead of what I cannot

The power of our unconscious habits is quite amazing and is even more powerful than when we consciously and intentionally make excuses ..Unless we pay attention we might think we are just" telling it like it is" being "realistic" .."practical" and we fail to realize how we have literally trained ourselves to make excuses without even thinking

Excusaholism is a central catalyst of that deadly destroyer of greatness, complacency

YOU ONLY HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY YOU TRULY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF IF YOU CREATED YOURSELF..WHICH YOU DID NOT, G-D DID

There is always more to you , you are always worth more and you are never too far gone to go far.
G-d the Creator and Maintainer of all that was is or will ever be thought you were worth creating and having an open line to infinity, divinity and limitless potential
DONT DENY YOURSELF , YOUR FAMILY OR THE WORLD WHAT YOU COULD BE ,NO MATTER YOUR AGE

As a start cut the excuses by 50% and increase your positive action by 200%, and experience the transformation that you have always been capable of

How you change the world without even realizing it
Let us say just for example you encounter or interact with around, being very conservative, 30 people each day.That is 210 per week and 840 per month and 10080 per year

If you want to make some meaningful change and you sustain it , you have changed and will now impact the lives of those 10080 people in a totally different way

The strength of your impact will depend on the changes you made , the length and depth of your interaction and your ongoing desire to grow, change transform etc

In other words through your change you have to some degree changed the lives of 10080 per year and 100 000 in a decade if thats not changing the world ..I dont know what is

This is only based on your interaction in some form or another with only 30 people a day

So in general when you change yourself you change the world no matter your lot at any one time

There is a drop of water separate from the ocean which will only go so far,to its limits.Yet back in the ocean it is still that drop of water but with the infinite power of of the ocean , no limits only infinite possibilities because it is not just the drop it is the ocean.So it is with G-d surrendering to G-ds will does not weaken us it connects us to the infinite power of G-d and gives us the unbelievable strength and potential which has always been our destiny, giving us the unhindered non complacent freedom to be our true selves....a choice......are you a drop or are you the ocean? For when the drop of water is in the ocean it can never remain a drop

Earth is always moving on its axis and orbiting around the sun even though we do not feel that movement at all

There is a powerful life changing message here
Even when you think you dont need to change , you dont need to do more and lapse into complacency there is no such thing as stagnation, there is always movement and if you are not going forward you will eventually go backwards

Getting rid of complacency is not a nice idea, it is critical to living,growing , to feeling alive, to finding meaning ,joy ,fulfillment etc

Whether you clean toilets , sweep streets , wash dishes,collect garbage or run companies ,countries,global organization or are royalty being happy with your lot is not resignation but pouring your maximum effort into each moment, crowning each second with the ultimate uniqueness that is you,letting your true character and integrity shine through all that you do, presenting a masterpiece with the piece of the Master that you have been given then you will create your own community of wow that will magnetize fulfillment ,satisfaction and quality to you that others will speak of for years to come...yes YOU.. G-d believes in you so should you..you are always worth more

From Green Lantern's light to G-d's might

On darkest day and blackest night
There is the temptation to give up the fight
But I am born of G-ds holy might
And so no hope shall escape my sight
Though the challenges may hang on tight
I will not abandon what is right
For I am stronger than any blight
And I will wait 'till the sun shines bright
With the knowledge that I am worth the fight

Noone of us want bad things or challenges but if you are able in the midst of it to keep some clarity you might find some people who shock you but many times if you are aware and pay attention you will see mindblowing greatness shining through many people in their willingness to give care, support etc .you will start to see them and others in a different light with new found respect and life changing inspiration....and you just might land up feeling as a result that much closer to G-d ---- an awesome takeaway from any challenge

Think of your thoughts as body snatchers for no thought has any power but the power you consciously or unconsciously give it. But when it is empowered and persists it takes over your speech,your actions, your reactions, fuels the emotional states that it gives birth to thereby engaging every limb in your body....learn to change your thoughts ,sustain the best thoughts and you gain entry in to a constantly greater life that G-d always meant you to have

The famous hold up line is"your money or you life?" but is that not what we are doing on a daily basis
Money is important we need it for basic living however it is representative of pursuits that distract us many times from what is truly enduring and important in life
Like for example family, spirituality, marriage, personal growth, giving relationships in general etc
So each day ,a few times a day, ask yourself the question"Your money or your (true) life?" each answer comes with ramifications and whatever your focus is realize it will consciously and subconsciously permeate all that you say and do etc...
Your money or your life? a life changing question on so many levels

Everyday is your day-take your power back
Some say "Its just not my day"...well ....every is your day , you might not like what happens on some of those days , you might feel lost,overwhelmed ,stuck etc.When you say "Its just not my day" you give your power to do something about it away....choose life ..take your power back.... dont be a victim or a casualty waiting for salvation ,be a victor , a champion of your circumstances pursuing redemption and then that day will have value that will never be lost as G-D never gets "amnesia"

When you see your life as Master piece , being that you are a piece of the Master then you will pack groceries like Da Vinci painted
you will sweep the streets like Michelangelo sculpted
you will collect garbage like Jordan played basketball
you will wash dishes like Nureyev danced
you will bus tables like Pavarroti sang

For when you see your life as Master piece you are an artist no matter what you do and that is what you will show the world and create your own economy , your community of Wow opening vistas of possibilities for the continually better version of you that you attempt each day to gift the world with.

Shut the world out, turn off the complaining, self pity or any other issues and take three moments:
one in the morning , one in the afternoon and one just before bed and say wholeheartedly( if you cant, fake it until you feel it and believe it)

Thank you G-D for making me so AWESOME
with eternal value and importance unchangeable by and independent of anyone or anything and totally dependent on YOU

Most people dont appreciate themselves, their value and importance which our connection to G-D takes to a totally epic level

Saying this three times a day ,everyday will help condition you , program you to a powerful positive mindset conducive to positive self appreciation ,fulfillment ,growth and success physically and spiritually

This is not hubris as you are thanking Hashem and thus acknowledging that it is all from Hashem

Change your power word everyday, here are a few to help feel free to add....Let me let you in on a secret when you truly learn to appreciate yourself , others and find who you really are and your impact on the world you will realize that no matter who you are even these words dont even begin to describe or capture the amazing Divine you that G-D created

AWESOME

INCREDIBLE

MAGNIFICENT

FANTASTIC

AMAZING

BEAUTIFUL

SENSATIONAL

TERRIFIC

WONDERFUL

EPIC

LEGENDARY

GREAT

EXEMPLARY

UNBELIEVABLE

INSPIRING

ASTOUNDING

SPECTACULAR

IMPRESSIVE

STUNNING

EXTRAORDINARY

Blame-a-aholic Psychosis

 I cant come to work with the feeling.......

She made me say........

If he did not do that I would not have had to......

He made me angry/upset......

The list is endless..sound familiar This psychosis has become almost a societal norm..its easy to blame the problem is when you blame you You divest yourself of any power or reason to change ,grow, improve, make amends if necessary, find a solution and you put all the responsibility on the situation or the other person and then unless the situation changes or the other person does in a way that you want things stay the same and the same bad results ensue, marriages end ,relationships suffer, jobs are lost, destruction follows

Blame is the weapon of the complacent,it is another wall in the prison of ones comfort zone, the medication of those resigned to where they are and see no where else to go.
Blame is for those who try and run away from the greatness within themselves seeing themselves as victims as casualties of their circumstances instead of as the champions that they can be

So what to do....work ,practice,put the effort in,dont give up,the mettle of a soulboss is harder than any metal.When you see yourself as a soul with a body you acknowledge a connection to the infinite, to G-D, to infinite power ,potential , to unlimit yourself because its never you its always
and only G-D.
Just like the drop in the ocean ,once in the ocean it has the power of the mighty ocean connected to the entire ocean , more power and potential than it could ever have as a drop separate from the ocean

Understand

That noone makes you angry,upset etc....YOU CHOOSE IT

Noone makes you do anything .....YOU CHOOSE TO

 Bad habits due to years practice seem like they are not choices but they are until you made them a habit and now you have to choose to make a different habit and not let up until it takes the place of the old one..and that takes time and relentless practice

Excuses are the enforcers of your fears you are inviting in to prevent you from living your greatest life, pouring your genius into the world

The cure for a blama -a aholic is responsibility and action..this can be maximized to more than world class when you are open and willing to believe in yourself, the greatness that G-D has instilled within you.The legendary potential that only you have as there is noone like you but you .

When you can appreciate that as less than a speck of dust in the cosmos the Creator and Maintainer of all that was is and will ever be thought you were worth creating,thought it is worth being available to you always ,being a part of your life, being with you always,loves you then from nothing you become something, the mundane immediately turns into the majestic, the impossible sounds reasonable,you matter, you are important ,G-D believes in you , you are always worth the effort When you learn to appreciate yourself for who you are,your values, your dreams etc in the framework of your chosen belief /value system and not who others tell you , you should be ,to blame others would be an insult to the value that you can add by taking action ,seeing where you can grow , contribute and being a vehicle of blessing ,achievement and fulfillment

I want you to do an exercise:

For just two days whenever you talk to yourself , think to yourself ,in whatever situation refer to yourself as a fool then

For the next two days whenever you talk to yourself , think to yourself in whatever situation no matter how challenging or whatever mistakes you make etc refer to yourself as a world class winner

Lets use two examples

I was such a fool to say that!!!

I am a world class winner I shouldnt have said that!!!

Whether you believe the positive or negative reference or not you will see that just by using the negative reference you are not going to feel that great about yourself

However when you use the positive empowering reference you will whether you believe it or not feel just a little better about yourself

Now just imagine the damage you would be doing to yourself if you actually believed and referred to yourself everyday using this negative reference

Just the imagine empowering ,inspiring influence on you , and your life when you use and believe the positive reference appropriately without any hubris,arrogance etc

We are talking about just one word here, imagine the change , the upgrade, the life you could if you change your self talk scripts wherever they are needed in every area of your life

So many of us feel boxed in ,limited,stressed ,pressured,anxious because among other reasons we see no hope,no other options,possibilities , no other way ,choice , feel trapped etc and as a result we create among others" end of world ",worst case" scenarios etc with harmful consequences to our bodies,ourselves,those with whom we interact , our lives in general etc

One option is to "program ourselves" to think ,consider etc in an unlimited ,non boxed in way so that we keep our options open and thus no matter what situation we are in we never lose hope and dont think that there is absolutely nothing else we can do

This would do wonders for our state of mind,our mental ,physical health etc

The ultimate way would be to connect wholeheartedly to G-D as when we do that we are infused with the infinite,eternal and would with constant effort and maintenance never feel boxed in etc or at the very least be equipped to jump out of the box

However until we learn to do that adequately and fully consider the following unlimiting words.
Think about them,consider them, visualize a few times daily until they become second nature and then once they do you will feel less trapped ,boxed in, etc and experience reduced anxiety stress etc.
Your success and level of feeling less trapped ,boxed in etc is commensurate with the thought,effort,follow up and maintenance etc that you are prepared to invest

here is a list feel free to add words

unlimiting

boundless

infinite

eternal

unrestricted

unrestrained

unfettered

limitless

unconfined

unconstrained

open

wide

space

free

release

Free yourself from incarcerating self talk.,Gain the freedom you want to achieve what you need
Many of us have incarcerating self talk that limits us .When we realize that we are the warden our self talk will start to change overnight

Your self talk at this very moment impacts

Your choices

what you want to do right now

What you are planning for the future

your reactions

how you feel about yourself,others,your job,life in general

how you see the present situation you are in

How you see others,yourself etc

what you think of others yourself etc

Self talk is what you say to yourself ,what you think to yourself in every situation and we are constantly thinking or talking to ourselves about something so it stands to reason that when you change your self talk you have the power to positively change your life ,your world,to reignite ,rejuvenate any area of your life you wish to

Healthy ,quality,inspiring ,motivating self talk is one of the most important keys to a quality life and when you consistently reevaluate and upgrade your self talk you will consistently improve and add to your life.An added bonus is that with healthy self talk you can weather many storms and instead of complaining learn to dance in the rain....start the change today you are worth the effort

We are all world experts at rationalization when we want something enough that fulfills a need or if the temptation is great enough
The funny thing about rationalization is that it blocks out reason, perspective,ramification, clarity but this is good news
Because if we can talk ourselves into anything that gratifies the body and our baser desires ,temptations etc we can talk ourselves out of them and we talk ourselves into 
non fleeting gratification of the soul
healthier habits
positive behavior
being self confident
leaving our comfort zone,achieving the impossible
being more motivated,inspired etc
feeling happier
gaining better perspective
never giving up etc etc
The sky is not the limit but rather the ground we walk on when we channel the super power of rationalization in a positive, more pure, soul based direction,we can talk our selves into anything
BUT
We have to WANT it badly enough,it has to be a priority , a FOCUS,we have to believe it and let it into our hearts
AND
We have to learn to rearm our self talk arsenal to suit what we wish to change , improve ,upgrade etc and if you are finding difficulty, get outside help it is worth the effort.With a suitable self talk arsenal there will be no limit to what you can talk yourself into achieving

Pirkei Avot says"Who is wise,He who learns from everyone"We can learn something from everyone,so being that Jews do not believe in coincidence everyone you meet and or interact with has at least something that you can learn from them so they are extremely important to you,to your growth as you are to theirs.we just need to be humble enough to receive & discerning enough to know what is beneficial

You know you see true beauty when no matters what happens internally or externally that beauty will never change but gets even more radiant as the years go by.That is the divine beauty in everyone and everything not the darkness of ephemeral beauty.Strengthening your connection to G-D is commensurate with the radiance of that beauty

According to the midrash King Solomon was kicked off his throne for 40 years & forced to tarry from place to place with nothing but the clothes on his back and his walking stick, he said even though I have no throne I am still"ruler over my walking stick" .King Solomon never lost sight of who he was & in so doing reclaimed his throne.Hashem created you ,there is noone,has never been and will never be anyone quite like you,an eternal privilege.So never lose sight of who you truly are,your uniqueness & no matter how far you fall you will eventually get up 

Many ask how is it that the manner in which we say Modeh Ani in the morning determines the rest of our day?One way is that when you truly appreciate being alive,every single second of breath you appreciate as a gift from Hashem, then after a passionate Modeh Ani in thanks and gratitude for being alive, by extrapolation ,because of your attitude whatever happens to you you will find a way to have a good day

LOCUS OF CONTROL

If your locus of control is other peoples opinions then you will never truly be happy and your happiness will be fickle and change with the limited tides of the human condition.If your locus of control is G-D then you will appreciate your true value know that it never changes,you are always loved,in any situation happiness is a possibility,hope constant,you will eventually achieve a stability,a tranquility that will nurture meaningful growth and a beautiful life

RECLAIMING OUR DIRECTION

we allow our fears to push us in unwanted directions until at times our compass starts spinning and we feel lost.

That though cannot allow us to give up or give in,we stop the compass spinning by totally accepting G-D as King in every area of our lives then we feel an influx of strength, the strength or eternity of focus and find the courage through acknowledging our fear that we can reclaim our direction for it is but a stepping stone in our growth . The fortitude we exhibit in facing our fear brings much blessing to us our family our nation and indeed the world.All what you do impacts everyone,impacts the world on so many levels ..,a unique privilege of being created by G-D