When you have to be in control the resultant apprehension of what if you lose control and /or the stress ,anxiety,pressure,worry etc when you dont have the control you think you have to have is precisely what takes away your control, for you feel compelled to do ,say,act ,react, in ways that will reclaim the control you think you should have had.

Give it all over to G-D, do what you have to do, do your best,pour your positive best into each moment knowing that whatever happens that counts too and you are building your army of angels leaving the rest to G-D and thus finding true and real control that with the gift of clarity frees you up from needless worry, anxiety ,pressure etc to live the life you were destined to live since before Creation no matter your situation

You can always take it higher... you have G-D within you